Wedding-appropriate Accessories for the Modern Gentleman
Having recently walked down the aisle, we feel a bit more qualified to write a short note about wedding-appropriate necktie.
We should qualify this post first by stating that we are not (not totally anyway) absolute suckers for tradition. Top hats, morning coats and strollers are great to admire in old Apparel Arts illustrations, but unless you have plenty of spare cash, lounge suits (a.k.a. business suits) that can be used after the occasion remain the most practical option.
The thrust behind our recommendations is simple - the bride should be the star of the show. If the groom has decided to wear a morning coat or stroller, he is, in present day context anyway, already wearing something sufficiently special for the big day.
For the gentlemen who decide to put on a lounge suit, bear in mind that there are plenty of other occasions that you get to put on your orange tie and lime green pocket square (not simultaneously, we hope). On the other hand, your bride has one day in her life she gets to wear her gown - do not rob her of the attention she deserves.
So the first conclusion is simple enough - keep it simple.
Now, as lounge suits are strongly associated to business attire today, one should try as far as possible to avoid looking like he came straight to his wedding from a business meeting. Stripes/repps, floral prints and plain navy or burgundy ties are most commonly worn as business attire, so as far as possible, we suggest avoiding these.
Putting non-businessy and simple together, we are pretty much left with a particular group of neckties the English conveniently refer to as wedding ties. Appearing generally silver from a distance, the patterns can be either a houndstooth, glenplaid, shepherd’s check, or a variety of silver/black/white Macclesfield patterns.
As for the pocket square, we recommend a simple white linen pocket square worn as a TV fold, or at most a cream silk square puffed quite inconspicuously. A simple, fresh stalk of carnation (lose the mass of greens, please) in the lapel buttonhole lifts the outfit, but of course we would not fault you for choosing one of our white Vanda orchid lapel pins which won’t wilt on you.
To end, I leave you with evidence that we practise what we preach. On our wedding day, Gerald wore a mid grey open-weaved lounge suit with a simple white shirt, white pocket square, and a Red-Cream Prince of Wale patterned tie (which we used to stock, and perhaps should restock!) as a nod to the customary Chinese colour of red. The carnation in the buttonhole also happens to be a prototype of our new lapel pin design which we will be selling in a month or so!